Are you a Caterpillar or a ~ BUTTERFLY~

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

Think about those words. When we do things that are good for us and others, we literally COME ALIVE. Reflect for a moment on the day you were accepted to college, can you remember the feelings? Yes, some of them were fear, but honestly, there was a great deal of excitement. How man times did you day “I’m a college student!” I know I did hundreds of times. I still do, even after (4) years and two degrees. It is just even more incredible to say “I’m a college graduate!”

COME ALIVE. allow yourself to be fulfilled. I can hear you now “It’s hard to come alive with all this studying, exams, work and family.” REALLY????? Why would you deny yourself the good stuff? No matter what, you are doing what others refuse to do. You are bettering yourself. Improving you and your family’s future. Giving yourself more opportunities.  Stop the self-pity. Stop trying ti pour yourself another glass of failure. Look at all of this as the GLASS HALF FULL instead of the GLASS HALF EMPTY!

As we get older we start to realize our mortality and we realize it is time to make a move. Before you know it the four years will be over and you will have that PRECIOUS DEGREE!  I cannot reiterate enough that feeling you are going to experience. I remember Strayer’s President Dr. Stollards’ words at the end of commencement when she said, “TURN YOUR TASSLES AS YOU ARE NOW A GRADUATE OF STRAYER UNIVERSITY!”  I still get the goose bumps when I think about those words or hear the words “Kathleen Gerber, Bachelor’s of Science, Magna Cum Laude.” You can feel those goose bumps too. Instead of thinking “Oh I wish I would have.” There’s no room here for woulda, coulda, shoulda.

Create your bucket list for life and GO FOR IT! You only live once. Last year, I allowed myself to experience something I have wanted to do my whole life. Skydive. I went with my son and a great friend. Oh yes, I was petrified until the plane was actually flying towards our destination of 13,500 ft. I had a sense of calm because I had made the decision and did not wimp out. IT WAS INCREDIBLE! I loved every single second of it and now I am addicted. The point I am trying to make here is you do not know what you are missing out on if you only allow things to be a dream or a fantasy or wishful thinking.  For me, I don’t want to die with regrets. I don’t want to die with “if only.”

Pump yourself up! Be positive! Yell and Scream like a cheerleader would!

Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in a rut or complacent. This is it! 🙂 🙂 🙂


Worry about your Character. NOT YOUR REPUTATION.










Since today is Friday, let’s keep it light. I think this says it all. I know I get this confused a lot and I am sure that you do too. We are always concerned about our “Rep.” instead of who we really are and that is our character. We waste so much precious time worrying about how our friends, co-workers, fellow students and society in general think about us that we are missing the overall big picture.

What does your character say about you? Are you a truly good person, or one full of lip service? Are you a true believer in God/Higher Power. or again just lip service? Do you contribute to your community? Or all talk and no action? Do you always talk about not judging others, but in reality you judge all the time?  Do you talk about following God’s path but yet hold grudges? Do you profess to forgive as God forgives us for our sins and yet constantly remind people how they messed up? Throw up the past? Don’t let go? Do you demand to be forgiven but don’t forgive? Bottom line are you a HYPOCRITE?

Character is who you are in the good times and in the bad times. Character is about being righteous, not just flapping your lips.  Be the person people admire and want to emulate. Also, do not be someone you are not. Be true to yourself.

Reflect on what you think your character is…… Change what you need to change and Be the BEST you can be.  Be kind to your neighbors and humanity. Give back instead of always taking. Share your knowledge.


Maintaining Friendships.

This was a little hard to adjust to in that I value my friendships and enjoy spending quality time with them. However, school took a big chunk out of that. At first my friends were a little miffed about it. They were used to me being available whenever they needed me. It suddenly became “I’ll get back with you, I’m studying now,” or it was “I’m in class right now, I’ll call you back”, or another one was/is “I’m getting ready for midterms or finals, I’ll talk next week.” I had to sit down with my friends and explain what I was trying to do and that this was really, really important to me. Upon doing so, I found that the friends that we truly my friends and wanted the best for me UNDERSTOOD.

Now it’s a joke/satire. If one of them calls and don’t get a hold of me, they leave a message of understanding and words of encouragement. I’ll post on my fb page that its midterm week or finals week and I always get “See you when you are out of hibernation.”

BUT……. I had to remember to take time for myself too. That taking a breather and having lunch with my bff’s really re-energized me and boosted my confidence to continue on. We have to remember that our friends bring us joy and laughter and we need to keep them a part of our journey. They are so encouraging when I feel like I have had enough or a class that is kicking my butt and I’m questioning my sanity, they say to me what I need to hear and they let me know quite frequently that they value me and our friendship. One of my longest and dearest friends drove 275 mile to watch me graduate in September 2011. She did nit tell me she was coming and surprised me. It made my day even more special.

Make sure you prioritize and set boundaries where they need to be set. Your true friends will be by your side during your journey, the rest, well …. the hell with them. 🙂

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Trying to adjust to this homework

Well, I started my Statistics class @ Strayer University. It is my final class for my Bachelors in Criminal Justice. I think I made a mistake making it my last class because the pressure is really on to maintain my 3.8 GPA. Math is incredibly difficult for me as it is. Tryng hard to concentrate with a house full of people. My son and his wife and three yr. old daughter had to move in because of the economy and financial difficulties. Have you tried to study a foreign language (that is what math is to me) with a three year old running around and screaming?Whoa. I had forgotten what that was like. But I can adjust, it is all in the attitude that I go into this with. I have to set boundaries for myself and others and demand that they respect that. My boys have made fun of how much time and energy that I put into school. I’ve been accused of school being my whole life and that there is more to life than school. I do not agree with that. School is only temporary. I only have so much time to get this finished so that I can move onto the next chapter of my life. I have spent my whole life raising children and yes, even adult children and it is time for me now. I enjoy that feeling of accomplishment at Graduation, the feelings I get when I make Dean’s List and the awards I have received from Strayer.

As an adult student, being successful in the classroom becomes even more important. We understand what society looks for. We can no longer use our age as a reason for slacking off. For example, when I went to college the first time as an 18 year old and I would skip classes and so on, everyone would say “Oh, that’s because she is young and needs to get it out of her system.” What?! Now, there is not a reason except that I do often hear from other students that the excuse is “WORK” & “FAMILY” issues. Well in my opinion, there are not any excuses as an adult. You can re-arrange your life and schedule to fit what you need to do to accomplish your academic goals. Anyone can find and use an excuse, but a succesful, pride driven person finds solutions.

Well, it’s back to studying. I will let you know how it goes.  Send all the positive vibes my way. 🙂

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