You took the first step ~ NOW KEEP GOING!

 

 

 

 

 

 

This picture made me laugh. I remember feeling just like this the first day I went to class as a 47-year-old college student. It reminded me of everyone looking at me; family and friends who were wondering if I was serious. Then I took the plunge. 🙂 still laughing.

That was the day  that I decided I was no longer going to stay where I was at and it was up to me to make the changes.  I knew it was not going to be easy. I was not even sure of how hard it was going to be. However, here we are. I just graduated with my Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice. I am starting my Masters in June. I’ve been offered an internship with a Criminal Justice Agency through the Commonwealth Attorney‘s Office. WOW! 🙂 When I took that plunge (still laughing) I did not see all of this ahead of me.

You may be experiencing the same feelings and can relate to this picture just as I can. It looks like a long way down but it is not. Actually, it seems like yesterday that I started my first class. Now my family and friends are proud of my accomplishments and are beginning to see to fruits of all the hard work and sacrifices just as I am.

You took the most important step ~ The first step! NOW KEEP GOING!

Keep the picture of graduation in your mind and what you think and want your future to look like. You are going to make it! 🙂

ENJOY THE JOURNEY!

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Time Doesn’t Matter – JUST DO IT!

This is perfectly stated. I cannot tell you how many times while doing my undergraduate work that I heard people say, “This is going to take me forever, I can’t take three or four classes at a time.” Hearing that often made me feel sad. Why? Because people were putting undue pressure on themselves.  As an adult student you have more responsibilities than just school. Many of you have jobs and families. Some of you are caring for an elderly parent or a disabled child. You don’t have to keep up with anyone but YOURSELF.  You have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, the opposite is true. You a lot to be proud of. You are still going to college in spite of all the obstacles.

It does not matter how long it takes you as long as you JUST DON”T STOP. You will get there. When you can, take more classes, when you cannot, take only what you can handle. Do not take anything on that will cause you to possibly fail. That defeats the purpose. Do not set yourself up to fail. Set yourself up to SUCCEED! Then when you walk across that stage and hear your name, it will mean even more.

I started off taking one class at a time, then when I felt more comfortable I took two. It wasn’t until my junior year that I could take three classes. Even in my senior year a situation happened that forced me to take only two classes during one-quarter. It actually was the best thing I could do for myself.

Do not listen to the other students bragging about how many classes they are taking. They are not you. You do what is in your best interest. Keep your eye on the prize – GRADUATION! Allow yourself to enjoy this incredible journey. 🙂

Peace

Are you a Caterpillar or a ~ BUTTERFLY~

This is who I am! Are you DRIVEN!

For many of us, we have heard this. Or we may have heard the words “Are they nuts?’ “They are being selfish, their children (adult or young) need them.” or “What are they thinking, they are too old?”  You will probably hear this many more times over the next 4+ years of college. You must learn to turn a deaf ear to it. Some people are jealous, some are afraid you won’t want to be their friend once you are “educated” and some just don’t want to see others do better than them. Your going back to college can be intimidating to some people. Co-workers become uncomfortable because they fear for their jobs, or you may make them look bad. That’s THEIR INSECURITIES, NOT YOURS!

Don’t let anyone steal your joy. The further you get in school, the worse it is going to get. I know this from first hand experience. During the last week of my Bachelors degree, all my haters seemed to come out of the wood work. I found it astounding and amazing. It was like they were doing everything they could to upset me or make me angry so that I would lose my focus. Now you might be saying to yourself, “This woman is hallucinating.” 🙂  Trust me, I am not. I had to really stay focused on getting through my last final as an undergrad and I could not allow anyone or anything try to take that away from me. Now I am not saying it was easy, it was a nightmare to say the least. I did get through it. YAY!!!! 🙂

You will see a pattern emerge every time a midterm or final or a big paper is due, there’s a crisis of some kind. I got to the point where I just said to myself “REALLY?” “AGAIN?” You will find ways that work for you. Sometimes you have to take a step back and breathe and other times you will have to be a bull and go forward with everything you have. THIS IS YOUR SUCCESS!!! THIS IS YOUR PRIDE!!! THIS IS YOUR DREAM!!! No one or anything has the right to take that away.

Tragedies will happen. I had a few of them during my undergrad studies. The worst one was during what was supposed to be my last quarter. My 21-year-old son had a life threatening burn injury. He was n the hospital a long time and I couldn’t leave his bedside. I was taking three classes and felt incredibly overwhelmed. I made the decision to drop one of my classes and make the next quarter my final quarter. I did what I thought was best for me an my family. I still has the two other classes and I was able to complete both with an A. I learned how to use the time in the hospital and at home to get the work done. I learned how to prioritize so that my son and my needs were being met. I did not use the situation as a reason to quit. I used it as a way to move forward. If I could get through school during that time, then I can get through it no matter what.

You may or may not face the same things I did. However, the stumbling blocks that you will face need to be handled in a way that does not destroy your dream. We can all make excuses, but it’s the DRIVEN that move forward! Are you DRIVEN? Of course you are! 🙂 Let’s continue with this dynamic journey!!!!!

ENJOY YOUR DAY! 🙂

That huge Boulder in front of you ~ College ~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are you willing to get your hands dirty? YOUR FUTURE IS IN YOUR HANDS!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a continuation of yesterday’s blog about working hard to get your degree. This picture reminds me of the times my printer blew up right when a final paper was due and I had only hours to submit it. I remember the stress that caused me. Also the time when my laptop crashed during an exam (which you can only enter once). I was petrified but I did what I had to do. I had to borrow a friend computer which did not have any of the programs I needed but she allowed me to install whatever I needed. I had to contact my advisor and prove what happened and they allowed me to start the exam over.

Going to college means getting your hands dirty, not in the literal sense. All of the writing and typing and correcting that you have to do. Your hands will hurt at times, your brain will hurt as well. Your back will act up and you will lose sleep. That is all about “CREATING”  a future for yourself. It is like molding clay. Each year you complete is another part of the mold  until your piece is finished. Yep FINISHED! Whoo Hoo!

Anything worthwhile is not easy. I cannot count the times I wanted to just stop. Pulling my hair out and feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I would stomp around the house, cuss and scream. It seemed like college was never going to end. Then my husband would say to me, “this isn’t high school and the further you go the harder it is going to be.” I would give him the evil eye because I knew he was right.  I would take my little temper tantrum, and then pull myself together. It’s ok to have a meltdown here and there. It actually refreshes you.

When it seems too much, take a breather, go for a walk, listen to music or just take a nap. You will get it all done because you desire to be somebody and be successful. You want to be a “WINNER!”

I am saying this to you for myself as well. I am starting my Master’s program and from what everyone tells me it is a bear. That’s ok, I love the challenge. So whatever level you are at with your degree, say what I say to myself all of the time “This time next year I will have my Associates or my Bachelors, or Master’s degree.” You will be one year further. A year goes by incredibly fast.

Don’t cut yourself short. You started school for a reason. Now allow yourself to get your hands dirty and go through the trials and tribulations. It does not last forever.  If you have a good attitude, you will enjoy your journey instead of dreading it.

Continued success to all of you!  I will be happy to mentor anyone who needs a little boost. You can reach me by email: kgerber4230@yahoo.com or Facebook : Kathie Gerber. I would love to share your journey with you.

PEACE 🙂

 

Accomplish Great Things ~ GET YOUR DEGREE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To accomplish great things not only requires all of the above, but also requires A DEGREE!  Having your degree lets you stand above the mediocre. It demonstrates your drive and desire to become the best you can.

I often hear I am stopping at my Bachelor’s because I am just tired of going to school. WHAT? REALLY? Think about that a minute. All that says to me is that you are in fact mediocre. Master’s & PhD’s make a loud and clear statement that you are top-notch. That you want to be the BEST. That you’re willing to work even harder and longer to achieve your goals.

When I was a hiring agent and heard that excuse (because that is what it is) I immediately disqualified that person. Why would a company want to hire someone who got “TIRED” of working so hard?

Of course school is hard, long and exhausting. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. I again revert back to what Strayer University’s motto is “ONLY THE DRIVEN!” Those three little words say it all! If you are not driven to go all the way with school, then how are you going to go all the way to the top at a job?

Don’t make excuses. Dust yourself off and buckle down. That degree means more than you possibly know. It says more than you think about your character. So does your GPA. Don’t settle for “just passing.”  set high standards for yourself and go for it! Excuses are that – EXCUSES!

You can do this. Rise to the top! Be the best you can be. MAKE YOURSELF PROUD! 🙂

Enjoy your journey!

Peace

The Art of Visualization ~ Keep Graduation in your sights!

When you look at this picture, what do you see?  Calmness? Serenity? A place where you would love to be? It creates a sense of peace.

Now, when you look at the picture below, what do you feel?

It makes me smile, feel excited.It creates a sense of accomplishment and pride. I couldn’t say  it better than myself. I walked both my Associates and my Bachelors degrees. I am glad that I did. It was exhilaration! Like it says above, “The tassel was worth the hassle.  ABSOLUTLEY!  I have notes everywhere. My screen savers on my computer and cellphone says “GRADUATION.” There are sticky notes on my refrigerator, front door in my car and office. This is what visualization is all about. It reminds you when it gets tough what your goal is. The words GRADUATION is re-energizing and pumps me up to keep going on.

Visualize graduation day. Picture yourself in you cap & gown. Visualize all the people in the crowd, your family, friends and peers. Picture yourself walking across the stage to get your degree. Imagine the words of your name being called and the type of degree that you earned. Go ahead, sit back and visualize it. It will give you the desire to continue. Watch a virtual graduation online. It’s not cheesy, it’s what you are working for. Don’t deny yourself.

Share your graduation stories if you like. Talk to students who have graduated, ask them what it did for them. Go to one of your schools graduations and experience what it is like.

KEEP IN MIND ~ THE TASSEL IS WORTH THE HASSLE~~~!!!!

Enjoy the beautiful day God gave you!

PEACE~~~~

Be Yourself ~ THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE!

In our lives most of us have spent it trying to be “like” someone else, or trying to “please” other people. We lost the concept of “self.”  I know that in reality I have never been happy with myself because I felt I didn’t meet up to the standards of everyone else, or the people who I respected. All the years I have wasted trying to fill the shoes that weren’t my size. I would get frustrated, angry and disappointed in me. I didn’t understand why until I realized that I was not being true to “me.” What does that mean?

Once I realized that I wasn’t truly happy doing things the way I was, I took inventory of why. That is when I made the decision to go back to school and pursue my dreams. My children were grown and I no longer had to base my life around their schedules. I now had a schedule that was mine and I could do with it what I wanted. I realized how much I missed being important. Not as a mother or wife, but as an employee. I wanted to be needed and respected by my peers. Going back to college has given me that again.

Working my butt off in school and carrying a 3.8 GPA brings respect from my classmates, Professors and the Dean. Why? Because it demonstrates hard work and determination. It proves that I am worth it and willing to work hard. I earned it, I worked for it. I put in the incredibly long hours for it and NO ONE can take it away from me or take credit for it. The pride going back to college has instilled in me is priceless.

I am 52 years old today and I feel more respected now than I did in my 30’s and 40’s. The reason for that is I found my “self.” You can do the same. The past doesn’t define you. What you do from this day forward does. When school gets tough and you want to give up, remember that losers quit and you are NOT a loser. Strayer University‘s motto holds true: “Only the Driven.” It’s obvious you were driven when you decided to go back to college in the first place. Don’t let a couple stumbling blocks get in your way. They are only momentary and won’t last forever.

I am struggling in my statistics class and it is very hard for me, but I am pushing forward. A group of us created a study group as well as a conference call each week. We found that one person may be strong in a specific area and someone else in another. We are getting through this class with an A so far. We keep saying to each other we only have a couple more weeks and it will be a memory. You need to think the same way. DON’T GIVE UP! YOU ARE TOO CLOSE!

As Dr. Sizer told us, keep the word “GRADUATION” in your mind, it will help you stay focused and it does.

Take time to take inventory and give yourself permission for find your “self” and be true to that. You will be much happier and even more successful!! 🙂

Enjoy this beautiful day God Gave you.

Peace

When College Gets Tough ~ The Tough ~ GET GOING! ~HOPE~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Midterms are done, grades are in and the 2nd half of the quarter/semester begins. This is usually the time that classes are getting more trifling. When you say to yourself  “What was I thinking?” More papers are due, the work is increasing, and if you did not do well on your midterms, you really have to buckle down. If you aced your midterms, you have to work harder to maintain it.

You had all this energy and motivation when the quarter/semester started and now you are winding down a bit. I understand that only too well. HOWEVER, this is NOT  the time to allow that to happen. There will be plenty of time when the quarter/semester is over. It is the time to reach deep down inside and pull it all back out. This is where the old saying comes in; “It’s the difference between the men and the boys.”   The difference between SUCCESS & FAILURE. You need to remember why you chose to go back to college in the first place and re-energize yourself.  College is tough, I agree, but so is LIFE. So is your job, so is being a spouse and so on. How bad do you want this degree? Is it worth the sacrificing? OF COURSE IT IS! You can do it! HOWEVER, if it is not, then you need to make some decisions. Before you make any decisions, wait until the quarter/semester is over and then decide. Give yourself an honest chance before deciding to drop out.

Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get TOUGH. Remember it’s all about GRADUATION! FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!

I particularly like Strayer’s saying : “ONLY THE DRIVEN.”

ARE YOU DRIVEN?

Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you.

Peace.