When College Gets Tough ~ The Tough ~ GET GOING! ~HOPE~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Midterms are done, grades are in and the 2nd half of the quarter/semester begins. This is usually the time that classes are getting more trifling. When you say to yourself  “What was I thinking?” More papers are due, the work is increasing, and if you did not do well on your midterms, you really have to buckle down. If you aced your midterms, you have to work harder to maintain it.

You had all this energy and motivation when the quarter/semester started and now you are winding down a bit. I understand that only too well. HOWEVER, this is NOT  the time to allow that to happen. There will be plenty of time when the quarter/semester is over. It is the time to reach deep down inside and pull it all back out. This is where the old saying comes in; “It’s the difference between the men and the boys.”   The difference between SUCCESS & FAILURE. You need to remember why you chose to go back to college in the first place and re-energize yourself.  College is tough, I agree, but so is LIFE. So is your job, so is being a spouse and so on. How bad do you want this degree? Is it worth the sacrificing? OF COURSE IT IS! You can do it! HOWEVER, if it is not, then you need to make some decisions. Before you make any decisions, wait until the quarter/semester is over and then decide. Give yourself an honest chance before deciding to drop out.

Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get TOUGH. Remember it’s all about GRADUATION! FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!

I particularly like Strayer’s saying : “ONLY THE DRIVEN.”

ARE YOU DRIVEN?

Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you.

Peace.

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I read this I had to laugh because my husband and friends tell me all the time that when midterms and finals are here, I change into the grouchy Kathie. Nah, not me. No way. You’re just messing with me. Well, I have to admit, Yep, Yes, Yea Way and no they are not just messing with me.  It is like the Jeckle/Hyde Syndrome. I become grouchy, stressed and just a plain pain in the you know what!

I hate exams, my anxiety skyrockets and it is like I go through a complete metamorphosis. It took me a long time to realize that I was actually doing that. Midterms and Finals to me are the definition of my intelligence. Did I grasp the information? Was I really paying attention? It is almost like they “define” me. WHAT?!  Wait a minute! Define me?

I am such a Type A personality that I need to be perfect, have the best grades and so on. HOWEVER, I have to remember that the midterm and the final are only a PART of my grade! Duh! Hello!  I need to remind myself too that as long as I am doing my work to the best of my ability during the whole quarter and I am getting A’s on everything else, I can afford to lose a couple of points on the midterm/final. I have to remember to cut myself some slack too. I am such a good student. I do all my assignments and usually score A’s on the quizzes. So why do I do this to myself and my family?

Tonight is my final midterm and for the first time in four years I have accepted that I am doing great in the class and that I will do my best on my midterm and that’s that. Normally I have a headache, my neck is stiff, my back hurts and I am just plain miserable. Sound familiar? Sounds crazy huh? As older adults in college we have this fear of not being good enough or not as smart as the younger people in class because we have been out of school so long. That is one of the reasons I chose a University like Strayer. The majority of students are my age and I don’t feel like the old fart. Everyone is struggling with the same issues as I am; work, family, school and so on.

If you are honestly doing the best that you can and you are not slacking off or making excuses, CUT YOURSELF A BREAK. It is only (1) quarter of your entire college career and maybe this particular class is not your best subject, that certainly does not mean you are a failure. If your family/friends tell you that your mood swings are out of control, listen to them and take heed. If you are stressed that much you are not going to do well on the exam anyway.

You ARE going to survive this exam, really you are. If you do not do well, that’s ok. Talk to your Professor or Advisor and look into tutoring programs available through your College/University. Talk with fellow classmates about study groups where you can help one another out. Support each other. I have yet to meet a Professor who was not willing to help me or tutor me when I needed it. I also Skype with classmates when it is too difficult for everyone to meet at the same place. Sometimes you just need to get creative. Most Universities offer workshops on Math or Study Skills, English and so on. Make use of them. It is amazing what you will learn. The Internet also holds many options such as podcasts of different classes free of charge. Investigate, ask questions.

ENJOY THIS INCREDIBLE JOURNEY! You will make it! 🙂 Don’t let one class, one grade define who you are. Cut yourself some slack.  Good Luck if you are still taking your midterms. If you are done, take a deep breath and smell the fresh air. You made it through it. 🙂 🙂 🙂

Midterm Time – OH NO!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Here we are the DREADED MIDTERMS! ~~~Sweating ~~~ Long Nights~~~Stress~~~Nervousness and Insecurities ~~~

I feel you. It’s midterms for me too.  It’s time for us to see just how much we have learned so far.  It’s time to see if we slacked off or worked hard.  WAIT A MINUTE- DON’T !  Take a deep breath, go ahead – big breath in, hold it, big breath out.  There you go. Doesn’t that feel better?  Remember to do that often.

Midterms is only a GUIDELINE. Notice that word GUIDELINE.  (Midway)  It is not your grade. Just a measuring stick.  Whew – relief! 🙂

If you look at it like it’s a guideline it takes the pressure off.  Ok, let’s say that (now be honest with yourself) you did slack off and you have to own it. You have another 5 or so weeks to get it together. Midterms are a way to show  you honestly where you stand. If you haven’t slacked, this is where you get to pat yourself on the back for all the hard work you have done. 

Do your best and take this opportunity  to find your weakness and strength. Be real with yourself. If you didn’t do so well, ok, the last 5 weeks is gone. You have a clean slate. DON’T WASTE IT!

If you busted your butt and you ACE your midterms -CONGRATS! Let it REJUVINATE you!

GOOD LUCK!