Road to SUCCESS ~ Have you planted your seeds?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Look at the picture and read the words. Are you applying yourself? Are you asking questions? Are you expanding your horizons? Are you stretching your mind?  These few words are crucial to success. You need ro do these things in order to be the best person you can be. If you remain closed minded, you remain closed to opportunities.

When we are young, we don’t consider that time is important. We think we are going to live forever. As older adults starting a new chapter, these words are PROFOUND! Going to college as an older adult requires that you take heed to these words. You need to be more assertive. You must apply yourself more. How many times did you say that you your children, neices or nephews? As an adult student, it requires that you work harder. Concentrate more. We even need to rethink how to approach school, work and family. We have to learn how to prioritize our lives.

Have you planted your seeds? Have you watered them? Have you been nurturing your seeds? What happens to seeds that are not cared for? They don’t grow, they don’t prosper, they die. If seeds are not planted, how can you expect something to grow? Seeds are the future. They promise us life, but only if we water and nurture them. Seeds require us to be diligent and caring, just as college does.

You have already planted at least one seed. You took the step by going back to college. Now you need to nurture it. Study hard, ask questions and so on. Watch your seeds take root and begin to sprout.  Your first harvest will be when you graduate.

While you are studying and taking exams, don’t forget to start networking. Plant the seeds that you are looking for a new career. Talk to people who are in the field you have chosen. Learn what it requires. Learn what you need to know before entering the field. Build your contacts. Nurture your seeds.

HAVE YOU PLANTED YOUR SEEDS? If not, you better get started! 🙂

Enjoy harvesting! 🙂

Peace

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What kind of future are you building? ~Weak or Strong!

What kind of future are you building? ~Weak or Strong!.

When College Gets Tough ~ The Tough ~ GET GOING! ~HOPE~

When College Gets Tough ~ The Tough ~ GET GOING! ~HOPE~.

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!.

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I read this I had to laugh because my husband and friends tell me all the time that when midterms and finals are here, I change into the grouchy Kathie. Nah, not me. No way. You’re just messing with me. Well, I have to admit, Yep, Yes, Yea Way and no they are not just messing with me.  It is like the Jeckle/Hyde Syndrome. I become grouchy, stressed and just a plain pain in the you know what!

I hate exams, my anxiety skyrockets and it is like I go through a complete metamorphosis. It took me a long time to realize that I was actually doing that. Midterms and Finals to me are the definition of my intelligence. Did I grasp the information? Was I really paying attention? It is almost like they “define” me. WHAT?!  Wait a minute! Define me?

I am such a Type A personality that I need to be perfect, have the best grades and so on. HOWEVER, I have to remember that the midterm and the final are only a PART of my grade! Duh! Hello!  I need to remind myself too that as long as I am doing my work to the best of my ability during the whole quarter and I am getting A’s on everything else, I can afford to lose a couple of points on the midterm/final. I have to remember to cut myself some slack too. I am such a good student. I do all my assignments and usually score A’s on the quizzes. So why do I do this to myself and my family?

Tonight is my final midterm and for the first time in four years I have accepted that I am doing great in the class and that I will do my best on my midterm and that’s that. Normally I have a headache, my neck is stiff, my back hurts and I am just plain miserable. Sound familiar? Sounds crazy huh? As older adults in college we have this fear of not being good enough or not as smart as the younger people in class because we have been out of school so long. That is one of the reasons I chose a University like Strayer. The majority of students are my age and I don’t feel like the old fart. Everyone is struggling with the same issues as I am; work, family, school and so on.

If you are honestly doing the best that you can and you are not slacking off or making excuses, CUT YOURSELF A BREAK. It is only (1) quarter of your entire college career and maybe this particular class is not your best subject, that certainly does not mean you are a failure. If your family/friends tell you that your mood swings are out of control, listen to them and take heed. If you are stressed that much you are not going to do well on the exam anyway.

You ARE going to survive this exam, really you are. If you do not do well, that’s ok. Talk to your Professor or Advisor and look into tutoring programs available through your College/University. Talk with fellow classmates about study groups where you can help one another out. Support each other. I have yet to meet a Professor who was not willing to help me or tutor me when I needed it. I also Skype with classmates when it is too difficult for everyone to meet at the same place. Sometimes you just need to get creative. Most Universities offer workshops on Math or Study Skills, English and so on. Make use of them. It is amazing what you will learn. The Internet also holds many options such as podcasts of different classes free of charge. Investigate, ask questions.

ENJOY THIS INCREDIBLE JOURNEY! You will make it! 🙂 Don’t let one class, one grade define who you are. Cut yourself some slack.  Good Luck if you are still taking your midterms. If you are done, take a deep breath and smell the fresh air. You made it through it. 🙂 🙂 🙂

What Exam? What Homework? REALLY!

I just had to write about this because I heard this twice this week and both times I thought I was going to just fall over.

Two classmates of mine called regarding what homework was due this week. Now let me inform you that both of these students left class an hour early for the past two weeks. When I saw this picture I immediately though of them.

I am by nature a very nurturing person, but we are in COLLEGE!  What do you mean what homework is due this week?! First off, don’t you have a ‘SYLLABUS?”  You know that huge print out the professors give us at the beginning of the quarter that takes you step by step, week by week.  It is even numbered WEEK 1, WEEK 2, and so on.  Secondly, it is MIDTERM WEEK. HELLO!.. The butt kicker for me is the class we are in is a Jr./Sr. class, which means that you know the routine by now. You are not a freshman taking this class.

When I told them it was midterms, they both panicked,saying I’m not ready, what do I do and they rambled for a good 10 seconds. I couldn’t help myself and I asked them, “What week are we in?”  They answered correctly. I also informed them that because they left class early that they did not get the study guide that the Professor handed out for the midterm. I also informed them that the Professor had a study group on Saturday that he announced in class on Thursday.

You could see pure panic set in. They created unnecessary stress for themselves. Now not only are they behind on the homework that was due but they do not have any clue to what is going to be on the midterm. I suggested that they contact the Professor and see if they can get what they need.

This is where I get on my soapbox. This is college, you are an adult, you know how to be RESPONSIBLE. There really is no excuse for allowing this to happen. I know that Strayer for example, very clearly in the syllabus details every week what is required. If you lose the syllabus you can get another or go into the Student Center of Blackboard and get another one. Oh, and then there is this magical instrument called a telephone/cell-phone that you can use to call your professor anytime, or email anytime. Why wait until two days before the class?

REMEMBER, you are paying for these classes. Yes, there is a great deal of freedom going to college, but that freedom can get you into a lot of trouble if you cannot discipline yourself.  I for none am not in class “Just to get by,” I want to ace the class.

Ok, off my soapbox. Do you see yourself here? If you do, change it. If not, congrats.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

 HAPPY STUDYING! 🙂

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

Think about those words. When we do things that are good for us and others, we literally COME ALIVE. Reflect for a moment on the day you were accepted to college, can you remember the feelings? Yes, some of them were fear, but honestly, there was a great deal of excitement. How man times did you day “I’m a college student!” I know I did hundreds of times. I still do, even after (4) years and two degrees. It is just even more incredible to say “I’m a college graduate!”

COME ALIVE. allow yourself to be fulfilled. I can hear you now “It’s hard to come alive with all this studying, exams, work and family.” REALLY????? Why would you deny yourself the good stuff? No matter what, you are doing what others refuse to do. You are bettering yourself. Improving you and your family’s future. Giving yourself more opportunities.  Stop the self-pity. Stop trying ti pour yourself another glass of failure. Look at all of this as the GLASS HALF FULL instead of the GLASS HALF EMPTY!

As we get older we start to realize our mortality and we realize it is time to make a move. Before you know it the four years will be over and you will have that PRECIOUS DEGREE!  I cannot reiterate enough that feeling you are going to experience. I remember Strayer’s President Dr. Stollards’ words at the end of commencement when she said, “TURN YOUR TASSLES AS YOU ARE NOW A GRADUATE OF STRAYER UNIVERSITY!”  I still get the goose bumps when I think about those words or hear the words “Kathleen Gerber, Bachelor’s of Science, Magna Cum Laude.” You can feel those goose bumps too. Instead of thinking “Oh I wish I would have.” There’s no room here for woulda, coulda, shoulda.

Create your bucket list for life and GO FOR IT! You only live once. Last year, I allowed myself to experience something I have wanted to do my whole life. Skydive. I went with my son and a great friend. Oh yes, I was petrified until the plane was actually flying towards our destination of 13,500 ft. I had a sense of calm because I had made the decision and did not wimp out. IT WAS INCREDIBLE! I loved every single second of it and now I am addicted. The point I am trying to make here is you do not know what you are missing out on if you only allow things to be a dream or a fantasy or wishful thinking.  For me, I don’t want to die with regrets. I don’t want to die with “if only.”

Pump yourself up! Be positive! Yell and Scream like a cheerleader would!

Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in a rut or complacent. This is it! 🙂 🙂 🙂

HAVE FUN!

Law of Attraction – Sounds Weird but IT’S TRUE!

Hmmmm when I read this years ago I thought it was just another one of those fly by night schemes but the more I read about it, the more I can to believe in it. The more I practiced it, the more I saw the results. When I don’t practice it, I also see the results of that.

When I first made the decision to return to school was actually years before I walked through the doors of Strayer University. I have thought about it time and again. The problem was I couldn’t visualize it in my head. I couldn’t see me walking across the stage of graduation, or wearing a cap and gown or holding that diploma in my hands. It took almost 15 years before I was able to see any of that. I spoke often of going back to school and I made excuse after excuse I could find; we can’t afford it, the children need me, my husband needs me, work needs me, my friends need me blah blah blah.

Then 5 years ago I heard about this philosophy and decided to check it out.  I started to put it in practice. I started to change the way I was thinking. I started to cut out pictures of what car I wanted, what kind of home I wanted, and yes, even what kind of job I wanted. I cut out pictures of college graduates with their caps and gowns and wrote at the top “This is going to be ME!”

Now I must be honest and say I didn’t see changes right away because I often slipped back into my old thinking habits. It is really difficult to learn to control your thoughts. Whew, it was quite exhausting for a long time. Finally about 6 months later things were beginning to change slowly. First was my attitude. I was not longer the walking billboard of negativity. The words ” I CAN”  became a daily part of my vocabulary. “I CAN”T” started to become much less a part of my vocabulary.  Just changing from I can’t to I can was amazing. I felt different about myself. People said I carried myself differently (I didn’t notice at first). My head was held higher instead of always looking at the ground. It felt great not feeling doom and gloom everyday.

As the I can’s started increasing is when the final decision to go to college became a reality. I was more self-confident and my determination had grown ten fold. One day I was out running errands when I drove past Strayer University and my car suddenly had a mind of its own. I pulled into the parking lot and the next thing I knew I was standing in the front office of the Virginia Beach Campus. I can promise that I had the “deer in the headlights” look and I was really scared. A very pleasant young lady approached me and asked what I wanted and I remember answering her saying “I think I want to go back to school, but I’m not sure if it is for me.”  I also remember reverting to the insecure Kathie and I out my head to the ground like I wasn’t deserving.  The young lady invited me to her office to discuss my interests. I informed her that I haven’t seen the inside of a classroom for almost (30)  years and this was an insane idea. That is when she explained that more adults are returning to college than ever before. I was reassured that I would not be the “old lady” in class and all I had to do was take it one-quarter at a time. She suggested that I start with (2) classes to get acclimated and take it from there.

I completed the application process, and financial aid process and I waited to be rejected. Yep, that’s what I said. Waited to be rejected. The phone would ring and I would see Strayer’s number come up on my caller ID and I wouldn’t answer it. I let it go to voicemail because I didn’t want to hear that I wasn’t accepted, or that my financial aid application had been denied or there was some kind of problem. Funny thing, it never happened. I was ACCEPTED, my financial aid was APPROVED, my classes were SCHEDULED and I was to begin in 3 WEEKS! There was no turning back now! WOW, I’M A COLLEGE STUDENT! 🙂

The law of attraction works for me. It has changed my entire life. I pictured both of my graduations (I picture my Master’s and JD degrees too). I picture myself having high honors, not just getting by in college. I picture teaching other students one day. I picture traveling the country speaking at colleges about my journey and I picture me writing a book soon.  I know it sound weird, and I agree, but the Bible speaks about it, Motivational Speakers talk about it, Minsters Talk about it, so there must be something to it all.

Allow yourself to be open to the experience. To change your thinking. To become more confident. To get that College Degree. To get the job of your dreams. FOCUS. FOCUS. FOCUS!  When you don’t want to focus or you’re feeling down or overwhelmed – FOCUS ANYWAY! It is hard I agree, but it is worth every teenie tiny step, every frustration, every long night of studying.

VISUALIZE IT. SPEAK IT. SEE IT. WELCOME IT.  “I’M A COLLEGE GRADUATE!” 🙂