Time Doesn’t Matter – JUST DO IT!

This is perfectly stated. I cannot tell you how many times while doing my undergraduate work that I heard people say, “This is going to take me forever, I can’t take three or four classes at a time.” Hearing that often made me feel sad. Why? Because people were putting undue pressure on themselves.  As an adult student you have more responsibilities than just school. Many of you have jobs and families. Some of you are caring for an elderly parent or a disabled child. You don’t have to keep up with anyone but YOURSELF.  You have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, the opposite is true. You a lot to be proud of. You are still going to college in spite of all the obstacles.

It does not matter how long it takes you as long as you JUST DON”T STOP. You will get there. When you can, take more classes, when you cannot, take only what you can handle. Do not take anything on that will cause you to possibly fail. That defeats the purpose. Do not set yourself up to fail. Set yourself up to SUCCEED! Then when you walk across that stage and hear your name, it will mean even more.

I started off taking one class at a time, then when I felt more comfortable I took two. It wasn’t until my junior year that I could take three classes. Even in my senior year a situation happened that forced me to take only two classes during one-quarter. It actually was the best thing I could do for myself.

Do not listen to the other students bragging about how many classes they are taking. They are not you. You do what is in your best interest. Keep your eye on the prize – GRADUATION! Allow yourself to enjoy this incredible journey. 🙂

Peace

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Are you a Caterpillar or a ~ BUTTERFLY~

Stress vs Attention. It is easier than you think.

I thought that this is most appropriate now considering finals are around the corner. yesterday I spoke about stress. Today, this picture really calmed me and made incredible sense.  My energy goes wherever I want it to go.  It said “Attention” not “Stress.” Stress, sucks all the positive energy out of you and leaves you exhausted. Attention means focus, and when you are focused, it creates positive energy. GEEZ, WHAT TOOK ME SO LONG TO REALIZE THAT!  🙂

When you look at this picture, what do you see? Stare at it for a minute or two. How does it make you feel? Look at all the power surrounding his head and body. Notice how relaxed he is. Print this out and put it wherever you can see it all the time. Let it be a reminder to you that staying focused is important, not staying stressed.

This is true is all aspects of our lives, not just school. Our jobs, our families, our friends and so on. Try changing the word “Stress” to “Attention.” That sounds less harsh. I am going to do the same. Instead of saying “I am so stressed, or this really stresses me out,” say, “I need to focus my attention more on this or I need to channel my attention to the task at hand.” When you say the word stress, it causes your body to tense up but when you say the word attention, it does not bring on such reactions.

Place your “ATTENTION” where it needs to be and you are going to get through the next couple of weeks easily. Now I’m not saying that it won’t be difficult from time to time. I am saying that how we approach it does make all the difference.

While you are at it, remember to pay “ATTENTION” to your needs as well. Take care of yourself too. Eat right, exercise, drink plenty of water and meditate. Go out with the girls/guys and cut loose a little bit. Get a massage or just take a nap. You will feel so much better. Be good to yourself.

Enjoy this beautiful day.

Peace.

Accomplish Great Things ~ GET YOUR DEGREE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To accomplish great things not only requires all of the above, but also requires A DEGREE!  Having your degree lets you stand above the mediocre. It demonstrates your drive and desire to become the best you can.

I often hear I am stopping at my Bachelor’s because I am just tired of going to school. WHAT? REALLY? Think about that a minute. All that says to me is that you are in fact mediocre. Master’s & PhD’s make a loud and clear statement that you are top-notch. That you want to be the BEST. That you’re willing to work even harder and longer to achieve your goals.

When I was a hiring agent and heard that excuse (because that is what it is) I immediately disqualified that person. Why would a company want to hire someone who got “TIRED” of working so hard?

Of course school is hard, long and exhausting. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. I again revert back to what Strayer University’s motto is “ONLY THE DRIVEN!” Those three little words say it all! If you are not driven to go all the way with school, then how are you going to go all the way to the top at a job?

Don’t make excuses. Dust yourself off and buckle down. That degree means more than you possibly know. It says more than you think about your character. So does your GPA. Don’t settle for “just passing.”  set high standards for yourself and go for it! Excuses are that – EXCUSES!

You can do this. Rise to the top! Be the best you can be. MAKE YOURSELF PROUD! 🙂

Enjoy your journey!

Peace

Be Yourself ~ THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE!

In our lives most of us have spent it trying to be “like” someone else, or trying to “please” other people. We lost the concept of “self.”  I know that in reality I have never been happy with myself because I felt I didn’t meet up to the standards of everyone else, or the people who I respected. All the years I have wasted trying to fill the shoes that weren’t my size. I would get frustrated, angry and disappointed in me. I didn’t understand why until I realized that I was not being true to “me.” What does that mean?

Once I realized that I wasn’t truly happy doing things the way I was, I took inventory of why. That is when I made the decision to go back to school and pursue my dreams. My children were grown and I no longer had to base my life around their schedules. I now had a schedule that was mine and I could do with it what I wanted. I realized how much I missed being important. Not as a mother or wife, but as an employee. I wanted to be needed and respected by my peers. Going back to college has given me that again.

Working my butt off in school and carrying a 3.8 GPA brings respect from my classmates, Professors and the Dean. Why? Because it demonstrates hard work and determination. It proves that I am worth it and willing to work hard. I earned it, I worked for it. I put in the incredibly long hours for it and NO ONE can take it away from me or take credit for it. The pride going back to college has instilled in me is priceless.

I am 52 years old today and I feel more respected now than I did in my 30’s and 40’s. The reason for that is I found my “self.” You can do the same. The past doesn’t define you. What you do from this day forward does. When school gets tough and you want to give up, remember that losers quit and you are NOT a loser. Strayer University‘s motto holds true: “Only the Driven.” It’s obvious you were driven when you decided to go back to college in the first place. Don’t let a couple stumbling blocks get in your way. They are only momentary and won’t last forever.

I am struggling in my statistics class and it is very hard for me, but I am pushing forward. A group of us created a study group as well as a conference call each week. We found that one person may be strong in a specific area and someone else in another. We are getting through this class with an A so far. We keep saying to each other we only have a couple more weeks and it will be a memory. You need to think the same way. DON’T GIVE UP! YOU ARE TOO CLOSE!

As Dr. Sizer told us, keep the word “GRADUATION” in your mind, it will help you stay focused and it does.

Take time to take inventory and give yourself permission for find your “self” and be true to that. You will be much happier and even more successful!! 🙂

Enjoy this beautiful day God Gave you.

Peace

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

College makes you – COME ALIVE!.

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

Think about those words. When we do things that are good for us and others, we literally COME ALIVE. Reflect for a moment on the day you were accepted to college, can you remember the feelings? Yes, some of them were fear, but honestly, there was a great deal of excitement. How man times did you day “I’m a college student!” I know I did hundreds of times. I still do, even after (4) years and two degrees. It is just even more incredible to say “I’m a college graduate!”

COME ALIVE. allow yourself to be fulfilled. I can hear you now “It’s hard to come alive with all this studying, exams, work and family.” REALLY????? Why would you deny yourself the good stuff? No matter what, you are doing what others refuse to do. You are bettering yourself. Improving you and your family’s future. Giving yourself more opportunities.  Stop the self-pity. Stop trying ti pour yourself another glass of failure. Look at all of this as the GLASS HALF FULL instead of the GLASS HALF EMPTY!

As we get older we start to realize our mortality and we realize it is time to make a move. Before you know it the four years will be over and you will have that PRECIOUS DEGREE!  I cannot reiterate enough that feeling you are going to experience. I remember Strayer’s President Dr. Stollards’ words at the end of commencement when she said, “TURN YOUR TASSLES AS YOU ARE NOW A GRADUATE OF STRAYER UNIVERSITY!”  I still get the goose bumps when I think about those words or hear the words “Kathleen Gerber, Bachelor’s of Science, Magna Cum Laude.” You can feel those goose bumps too. Instead of thinking “Oh I wish I would have.” There’s no room here for woulda, coulda, shoulda.

Create your bucket list for life and GO FOR IT! You only live once. Last year, I allowed myself to experience something I have wanted to do my whole life. Skydive. I went with my son and a great friend. Oh yes, I was petrified until the plane was actually flying towards our destination of 13,500 ft. I had a sense of calm because I had made the decision and did not wimp out. IT WAS INCREDIBLE! I loved every single second of it and now I am addicted. The point I am trying to make here is you do not know what you are missing out on if you only allow things to be a dream or a fantasy or wishful thinking.  For me, I don’t want to die with regrets. I don’t want to die with “if only.”

Pump yourself up! Be positive! Yell and Scream like a cheerleader would!

Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in a rut or complacent. This is it! 🙂 🙂 🙂

HAVE FUN!

Law of Attraction – Sounds Weird but IT’S TRUE!

Hmmmm when I read this years ago I thought it was just another one of those fly by night schemes but the more I read about it, the more I can to believe in it. The more I practiced it, the more I saw the results. When I don’t practice it, I also see the results of that.

When I first made the decision to return to school was actually years before I walked through the doors of Strayer University. I have thought about it time and again. The problem was I couldn’t visualize it in my head. I couldn’t see me walking across the stage of graduation, or wearing a cap and gown or holding that diploma in my hands. It took almost 15 years before I was able to see any of that. I spoke often of going back to school and I made excuse after excuse I could find; we can’t afford it, the children need me, my husband needs me, work needs me, my friends need me blah blah blah.

Then 5 years ago I heard about this philosophy and decided to check it out.  I started to put it in practice. I started to change the way I was thinking. I started to cut out pictures of what car I wanted, what kind of home I wanted, and yes, even what kind of job I wanted. I cut out pictures of college graduates with their caps and gowns and wrote at the top “This is going to be ME!”

Now I must be honest and say I didn’t see changes right away because I often slipped back into my old thinking habits. It is really difficult to learn to control your thoughts. Whew, it was quite exhausting for a long time. Finally about 6 months later things were beginning to change slowly. First was my attitude. I was not longer the walking billboard of negativity. The words ” I CAN”  became a daily part of my vocabulary. “I CAN”T” started to become much less a part of my vocabulary.  Just changing from I can’t to I can was amazing. I felt different about myself. People said I carried myself differently (I didn’t notice at first). My head was held higher instead of always looking at the ground. It felt great not feeling doom and gloom everyday.

As the I can’s started increasing is when the final decision to go to college became a reality. I was more self-confident and my determination had grown ten fold. One day I was out running errands when I drove past Strayer University and my car suddenly had a mind of its own. I pulled into the parking lot and the next thing I knew I was standing in the front office of the Virginia Beach Campus. I can promise that I had the “deer in the headlights” look and I was really scared. A very pleasant young lady approached me and asked what I wanted and I remember answering her saying “I think I want to go back to school, but I’m not sure if it is for me.”  I also remember reverting to the insecure Kathie and I out my head to the ground like I wasn’t deserving.  The young lady invited me to her office to discuss my interests. I informed her that I haven’t seen the inside of a classroom for almost (30)  years and this was an insane idea. That is when she explained that more adults are returning to college than ever before. I was reassured that I would not be the “old lady” in class and all I had to do was take it one-quarter at a time. She suggested that I start with (2) classes to get acclimated and take it from there.

I completed the application process, and financial aid process and I waited to be rejected. Yep, that’s what I said. Waited to be rejected. The phone would ring and I would see Strayer’s number come up on my caller ID and I wouldn’t answer it. I let it go to voicemail because I didn’t want to hear that I wasn’t accepted, or that my financial aid application had been denied or there was some kind of problem. Funny thing, it never happened. I was ACCEPTED, my financial aid was APPROVED, my classes were SCHEDULED and I was to begin in 3 WEEKS! There was no turning back now! WOW, I’M A COLLEGE STUDENT! 🙂

The law of attraction works for me. It has changed my entire life. I pictured both of my graduations (I picture my Master’s and JD degrees too). I picture myself having high honors, not just getting by in college. I picture teaching other students one day. I picture traveling the country speaking at colleges about my journey and I picture me writing a book soon.  I know it sound weird, and I agree, but the Bible speaks about it, Motivational Speakers talk about it, Minsters Talk about it, so there must be something to it all.

Allow yourself to be open to the experience. To change your thinking. To become more confident. To get that College Degree. To get the job of your dreams. FOCUS. FOCUS. FOCUS!  When you don’t want to focus or you’re feeling down or overwhelmed – FOCUS ANYWAY! It is hard I agree, but it is worth every teenie tiny step, every frustration, every long night of studying.

VISUALIZE IT. SPEAK IT. SEE IT. WELCOME IT.  “I’M A COLLEGE GRADUATE!” 🙂