College can be a ~ ROLLER COASTER RIDE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this roller-coaster ride that we call life, we will experience thrilling highs, and we will experience stomach-dropping lows. When unfortunate situations occur, our natural instinct is to partake in negative thought patterns by stressing, dwelling, or worrying. We are human and these emotions are expected. But, when learning to become in control of our attitudes, we can reduce the degree of our… negative reactions and become more accepting of what’s out of our control. Instead of constantly worrying about what you cannot control in life, work on shifting your focus towards what you can always control: your attitude. Make the choice to be positive today.
Going back to college as an older adult is just like this. You are not just juggling school and a social life. You are struggling with school, jobs, family and friends. There always seems to be a crisis of some kind and they always happen during exam times. There always is some report that MUST be done, the family has something that MUST be done, one of your friends is having a melt down. If you are like me you will want to just crawl into a hole and hide for a little while and let life just get back on track. BUT we know that is not possible. You have to set boundaries. Setting boundaries are not always easy, but they are necessary. If you are going to succeed on this college journey, you do not really have a choice.  Especially if you want to complete school with high honors, not just getting by.
You need to get honest with yourself and accept that you do not have to be everyone’s savior and they have to learn to be their own. From my personal experience, this was really hard to do. My husband and boys were so used to me “taking care of everything.”  I handled all the bills, the shopping, the phone calls, the cleaning, cooking and laundry. When I started my Freshman year, I really thought that I could be “Superwoman.” Well, that lasted about 2 months. I thought I was going nuts. 🙂 Why could I not do all of this? What was wrong with me? I began to doubt myself. Had I taken on too much? Did I really think that I could go back to college and have a family and all the responsibilities of life?  OF COURSE I CAN!  It just required some serious restructuring of my life. I started making lists of priorities. I then sat down with my family and told them what needed to change and the help I needed from them. I also explained my expectations and what was not negotiable.  I was surprised that they understood. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy for them to change. I also had to be patient and understand that they were trying. I had to learn to accept that sometimes dishes were going to be in the sink or the vacuum wasn’t being run every day. I had to stand by my expectations. It got tough at times and the resistance tested me. Eventually everyone got the message that I was serious. 🙂
College is fast paced and often overwhelming. The best way that I explained it was I would show a math book I was studying and tell them that I had 12 weeks to learn everything in that book, not the whole year. Their eyes would get really wide and say ohhhhh, wow. It was really awesome to see their reaction and the light bulb suddenly going off. 🙂
You can do this. No matter what the struggles are. Use the tools the colleges offer to you such as: Mentors, Tutoring, Counseling. Contact an Alumni and connect with them, They are the best people to help you through it since they have already done it. You will be amazed at the trials and tribulations that other students have had to overcome. Please do not allow life’s roller coaster and tests to cause you to give up. You are stronger than anything that comes your way. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!
KEEP GRADUATION ON YOUR MIND! It will be worth every single moment.
Enjoy the journey…….
Peace.

 

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Road to SUCCESS ~ Have you planted your seeds?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Look at the picture and read the words. Are you applying yourself? Are you asking questions? Are you expanding your horizons? Are you stretching your mind?  These few words are crucial to success. You need ro do these things in order to be the best person you can be. If you remain closed minded, you remain closed to opportunities.

When we are young, we don’t consider that time is important. We think we are going to live forever. As older adults starting a new chapter, these words are PROFOUND! Going to college as an older adult requires that you take heed to these words. You need to be more assertive. You must apply yourself more. How many times did you say that you your children, neices or nephews? As an adult student, it requires that you work harder. Concentrate more. We even need to rethink how to approach school, work and family. We have to learn how to prioritize our lives.

Have you planted your seeds? Have you watered them? Have you been nurturing your seeds? What happens to seeds that are not cared for? They don’t grow, they don’t prosper, they die. If seeds are not planted, how can you expect something to grow? Seeds are the future. They promise us life, but only if we water and nurture them. Seeds require us to be diligent and caring, just as college does.

You have already planted at least one seed. You took the step by going back to college. Now you need to nurture it. Study hard, ask questions and so on. Watch your seeds take root and begin to sprout.  Your first harvest will be when you graduate.

While you are studying and taking exams, don’t forget to start networking. Plant the seeds that you are looking for a new career. Talk to people who are in the field you have chosen. Learn what it requires. Learn what you need to know before entering the field. Build your contacts. Nurture your seeds.

HAVE YOU PLANTED YOUR SEEDS? If not, you better get started! 🙂

Enjoy harvesting! 🙂

Peace

Midterm Time – OH NO!!!!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

Here we are the DREADED MIDTERMS! ~~~Sweating ~~~ Long Nights~~~Stress~~~Nervousness and Insecurities ~~~

I feel you. It’s midterms for me too.  It’s time for us to see just how much we have learned so far.  It’s time to see if we slacked off or worked hard.  WAIT A MINUTE- DON’T !  Take a deep breath, go ahead – big breath in, hold it, big breath out.  There you go. Doesn’t that feel better?  Remember to do that often.

Midterms is only a GUIDELINE. Notice that word GUIDELINE.  (Midway)  It is not your grade. Just a measuring stick.  Whew – relief! 🙂

If you look at it like it’s a guideline it takes the pressure off.  Ok, let’s say that (now be honest with yourself) you did slack off and you have to own it. You have another 5 or so weeks to get it together. Midterms are a way to show  you honestly where you stand. If you haven’t slacked, this is where you get to pat yourself on the back for all the hard work you have done. 

Do your best and take this opportunity  to find your weakness and strength. Be real with yourself. If you didn’t do so well, ok, the last 5 weeks is gone. You have a clean slate. DON’T WASTE IT!

If you busted your butt and you ACE your midterms -CONGRATS! Let it REJUVINATE you!

GOOD LUCK!

 

Hello College Students

Welcome, if you are a new returning student, or an old pro at it, I hope my blog helps you get through any struggles you many have as well as ny highlights. Returning to school is hard at any age, but particularly hard for those of us who haven’t studied, taken exams or tried to struggle classes and working and family for quite some time. It can create a great deal of stress and anxiety. But I am here to say you can do it! Sometimes its hour by hour, but don’t give up. The journey is so worth it and so rewarding.  If you have any questions, ask, yhttp://www.hypersmash.com/hostgator/” id=”Wv075″>HostGator promo codesou have anything to share, share. I am looking forward to sharing the journey with you!

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