This is who I am! Are you DRIVEN!

For many of us, we have heard this. Or we may have heard the words “Are they nuts?’ “They are being selfish, their children (adult or young) need them.” or “What are they thinking, they are too old?”  You will probably hear this many more times over the next 4+ years of college. You must learn to turn a deaf ear to it. Some people are jealous, some are afraid you won’t want to be their friend once you are “educated” and some just don’t want to see others do better than them. Your going back to college can be intimidating to some people. Co-workers become uncomfortable because they fear for their jobs, or you may make them look bad. That’s THEIR INSECURITIES, NOT YOURS!

Don’t let anyone steal your joy. The further you get in school, the worse it is going to get. I know this from first hand experience. During the last week of my Bachelors degree, all my haters seemed to come out of the wood work. I found it astounding and amazing. It was like they were doing everything they could to upset me or make me angry so that I would lose my focus. Now you might be saying to yourself, “This woman is hallucinating.” 🙂  Trust me, I am not. I had to really stay focused on getting through my last final as an undergrad and I could not allow anyone or anything try to take that away from me. Now I am not saying it was easy, it was a nightmare to say the least. I did get through it. YAY!!!! 🙂

You will see a pattern emerge every time a midterm or final or a big paper is due, there’s a crisis of some kind. I got to the point where I just said to myself “REALLY?” “AGAIN?” You will find ways that work for you. Sometimes you have to take a step back and breathe and other times you will have to be a bull and go forward with everything you have. THIS IS YOUR SUCCESS!!! THIS IS YOUR PRIDE!!! THIS IS YOUR DREAM!!! No one or anything has the right to take that away.

Tragedies will happen. I had a few of them during my undergrad studies. The worst one was during what was supposed to be my last quarter. My 21-year-old son had a life threatening burn injury. He was n the hospital a long time and I couldn’t leave his bedside. I was taking three classes and felt incredibly overwhelmed. I made the decision to drop one of my classes and make the next quarter my final quarter. I did what I thought was best for me an my family. I still has the two other classes and I was able to complete both with an A. I learned how to use the time in the hospital and at home to get the work done. I learned how to prioritize so that my son and my needs were being met. I did not use the situation as a reason to quit. I used it as a way to move forward. If I could get through school during that time, then I can get through it no matter what.

You may or may not face the same things I did. However, the stumbling blocks that you will face need to be handled in a way that does not destroy your dream. We can all make excuses, but it’s the DRIVEN that move forward! Are you DRIVEN? Of course you are! 🙂 Let’s continue with this dynamic journey!!!!!

ENJOY YOUR DAY! 🙂

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Stress vs Attention. It is easier than you think.

I thought that this is most appropriate now considering finals are around the corner. yesterday I spoke about stress. Today, this picture really calmed me and made incredible sense.  My energy goes wherever I want it to go.  It said “Attention” not “Stress.” Stress, sucks all the positive energy out of you and leaves you exhausted. Attention means focus, and when you are focused, it creates positive energy. GEEZ, WHAT TOOK ME SO LONG TO REALIZE THAT!  🙂

When you look at this picture, what do you see? Stare at it for a minute or two. How does it make you feel? Look at all the power surrounding his head and body. Notice how relaxed he is. Print this out and put it wherever you can see it all the time. Let it be a reminder to you that staying focused is important, not staying stressed.

This is true is all aspects of our lives, not just school. Our jobs, our families, our friends and so on. Try changing the word “Stress” to “Attention.” That sounds less harsh. I am going to do the same. Instead of saying “I am so stressed, or this really stresses me out,” say, “I need to focus my attention more on this or I need to channel my attention to the task at hand.” When you say the word stress, it causes your body to tense up but when you say the word attention, it does not bring on such reactions.

Place your “ATTENTION” where it needs to be and you are going to get through the next couple of weeks easily. Now I’m not saying that it won’t be difficult from time to time. I am saying that how we approach it does make all the difference.

While you are at it, remember to pay “ATTENTION” to your needs as well. Take care of yourself too. Eat right, exercise, drink plenty of water and meditate. Go out with the girls/guys and cut loose a little bit. Get a massage or just take a nap. You will feel so much better. Be good to yourself.

Enjoy this beautiful day.

Peace.

Just Stop ~ Be Still ~ Believe and Trust.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Human beings have to control everything. Isn’t that true? We are afraid to let go and allow things to happen as their supposed to. My favorite saying is “Let Go, Get God.” Here is where the problem comes in. He never, and I reiterate, does what I “want” when I want him to. Ugggg. Then I get impatient and take control back. That never works out good 😦 for me. It drives me nuts! I feel that if I give up complete control then it won’t get done right. WHAT? Am I saying I don’t trust God and the universe to do the right thing? SHAME ON ME

It’s hard for human beings to, well almost impossible, to let go and just let it be. I don’t know about you, but I go into a panic mode. I say to myself “what if he’s not listening at this very moment, he might miss what I am saying. REALLY?! WOW, that’s pretty narcissistic of me. I should be ashamed of myself and I am. How could I possibly think that I know what I need more than God. WHAT WAS I THINKING!

I have been assessing this over the last year and I am beginning to grasp that concept. I am not 100% trusting yet I am sorry to say. I am doing tons better than this time last year. I have had a great deal of trials and tribulations lately and sometimes I even told God that I was really mad at him. It seemed at first that the further I went in school, the more tests that were given to me. Tests, that is the word I decided to use. It helps me tremendously to understand what and why something is happening.

Tests are designed to determine how much we want something. How badly do I want my education? Am I willing to make sacrifices to accomplish that? Can I handle the stress going to college brings? My answer is YES! YES! YES! If I cannot handle the stress that comes along with going to college, working full-time and having a family, then how am I going to manage the stress that will come with my chosen field? I will still have family and work issues. Even more stress if you are starting a new career.

I have become calmer in the last year and not wiggling out at every obstacle. I stop and take a deep breath and trust that everything happens for a reason. As it say above – JUST BE.

LET THE LIGHTS SPARKLE AND SHOW YOU THE WAY!  Let go and let your life unfold as it is supposed to be. Trust in yourself that you are doing the right things. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

BE OPEN TO FINDING YOUR PATH AND DON’T BE AFRAID, IT’S GOING TO BE A WONDERFUL SURPRISE! Enjoy the journey! 🙂

Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you!

PEACE..

If you have HATERS – You must be doing something ~ RIGHT!

This statement is incredibly true. Before I started college, I never understood the “Hater” concept. I just thought some people were rude. In the last four years, especially the last two, I have come to understand this concept. At first, it really frustrated me because my self-esteem had taken a real hit over the years and I was just starting to feel good about myself again. Going back to college had given me the feeling of success again. It gave me confidence in myself. I could walk with my head high again. Then all of a sudden, there were conflicts in my life with people I never expected. It devastated me and I would say to myself all the time “Where did that come from?”  People who I thought were in my corner started to drift away, call me names, put me down. The only thing that changed in me was my CONFIDENCE & SELF-WORTH. Why were people doing this?

That my friend is called a “HATER.”  Haters are people who do not want to see you get ahead, better yourself or actually become happy. See, they are great when you feel like crap, your self-esteem is a bust and so on because it empowers their egos, their self-esteem, their self-worth. They feel good on your back. Once you begin to understand who you are and what you have to offer, you become a threat to those individuals.

I learned that the better you do, the more haters, you will have. The more successful you become, you may have to make a decision to change your friends. You need to surround yourself with people who have the same goals as you do and are not afraid of your success. When people act like HATERS, it is because you are creating an uncomfortable feeling in them. You are causing them to look at themselves, and they do not like what they are seeing. That is NOT YOUR FAULT! 

Think about this for a minute. Look at successful people such as Doctors, Lawyers, CEO’s and so on. Do they surround themselves with other successful people or do they surround themselves with losers? I know for myself I want to be around people who are succesful, have what I am trying to get. I can learn from them. I can learn what it takes to become succesful. I can also learn what pitfalls to avoid. Tell me one professional athlete that practices everyday with someone who is not? Why would a professional tennis player practice with a beginner? How are they going to improve that way? You only get better by playing or working with people who are smarter and more succesful than you are. They can teach you what you need to learn. The person who is calling you names and putting you down for going back to school is JEALOUS! They want you to stay right where you are at. They do not have any desire to see you succeed.

For myself, that meant a great deal of changes and pain. I had to walk away from some family members and friends because being around them was toxic. The stress it would cause was unbearable. However, making the changes and surrounding myself with positive, healthy people has made significant changes in my life. People who rejoice in my success. People who want to see me prosper and grow. These people are now a major part of my life. Yes, it hurt like you know what to walk away from certain people, but I knew if I did not, I would never achieve my goals. YOU DO NOT NEED PEOPLE WHO ARE INTENTIONALLY SABATAGING YOUR FUTURE. 

I can hear you now. “I can never walk away from my friends or family.” “That is just plain WRONG!” “I don’t ever want to become that arrogant.” Yep, I can hear those words. Why? Because I said them too! When I started my 3rd year is when major changes happened. Some people realized I was serious about school and making my dreams come true and they began to berate me, talk about me and tell me that I was being foolish to think at my age that I could start a new career and be successful! WHAT! I thought they were my friends and family! Wow, what an eye-opener. You will, I promise, experience this. To what degree, I cannot say. You just need to remain focused on the prize – GRADUATION! NEW JOB! PROMOTION!

Keep doing what you are doing, those who are really friends and family; they will pat you on the back instead of trying to stab you in the back. They will scream for you at graduation. They will praise your successes. They will get excited about your grades. They will pump you up when you are struggling. The will cheer you on! Just reading that makes me feel good and motivates me. How about you?

REMEMBER: IF YOU HAVE HATERS ~ YOU MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT!

Feel sorry for your haters and rejoice with those who embrace your drive to become a better person!

Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you!

Peace.