This is a continuation of yesterday’s blog about working hard to get your degree. This picture reminds me of the times my printer blew up right when a final paper was due and I had only hours to submit it. I remember the stress that caused me. Also the time when my laptop crashed during an exam (which you can only enter once). I was petrified but I did what I had to do. I had to borrow a friend computer which did not have any of the programs I needed but she allowed me to install whatever I needed. I had to contact my advisor and prove what happened and they allowed me to start the exam over.
Going to college means getting your hands dirty, not in the literal sense. All of the writing and typing and correcting that you have to do. Your hands will hurt at times, your brain will hurt as well. Your back will act up and you will lose sleep. That is all about “CREATING” a future for yourself. It is like molding clay. Each year you complete is another part of the mold until your piece is finished. Yep FINISHED! Whoo Hoo!
Anything worthwhile is not easy. I cannot count the times I wanted to just stop. Pulling my hair out and feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I would stomp around the house, cuss and scream. It seemed like college was never going to end. Then my husband would say to me, “this isn’t high school and the further you go the harder it is going to be.” I would give him the evil eye because I knew he was right. I would take my little temper tantrum, and then pull myself together. It’s ok to have a meltdown here and there. It actually refreshes you.
When it seems too much, take a breather, go for a walk, listen to music or just take a nap. You will get it all done because you desire to be somebody and be successful. You want to be a “WINNER!”
I am saying this to you for myself as well. I am starting my Master’s program and from what everyone tells me it is a bear. That’s ok, I love the challenge. So whatever level you are at with your degree, say what I say to myself all of the time “This time next year I will have my Associates or my Bachelors, or Master’s degree.” You will be one year further. A year goes by incredibly fast.
Don’t cut yourself short. You started school for a reason. Now allow yourself to get your hands dirty and go through the trials and tribulations. It does not last forever. If you have a good attitude, you will enjoy your journey instead of dreading it.
Continued success to all of you! I will be happy to mentor anyone who needs a little boost. You can reach me by email: email@example.com or Facebook : Kathie Gerber. I would love to share your journey with you.
To accomplish great things not only requires all of the above, but also requires A DEGREE! Having your degree lets you stand above the mediocre. It demonstrates your drive and desire to become the best you can.
I often hear I am stopping at my Bachelor’s because I am just tired of going to school. WHAT? REALLY? Think about that a minute. All that says to me is that you are in fact mediocre. Master’s & PhD’s make a loud and clear statement that you are top-notch. That you want to be the BEST. That you’re willing to work even harder and longer to achieve your goals.
When I was a hiring agent and heard that excuse (because that is what it is) I immediately disqualified that person. Why would a company want to hire someone who got “TIRED” of working so hard?
Of course school is hard, long and exhausting. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. I again revert back to what Strayer University’s motto is “ONLY THE DRIVEN!” Those three little words say it all! If you are not driven to go all the way with school, then how are you going to go all the way to the top at a job?
Don’t make excuses. Dust yourself off and buckle down. That degree means more than you possibly know. It says more than you think about your character. So does your GPA. Don’t settle for “just passing.” set high standards for yourself and go for it! Excuses are that – EXCUSES!
You can do this. Rise to the top! Be the best you can be. MAKE YOURSELF PROUD! 🙂
Enjoy your journey!
I thought this was most appropriate for those of us that are pursuing our dreams of a better life. We have to stay focused and remain stead fast in achieving our goals. I noticed for myself over the last year especially that when I thought about my past that I do not have any desire to go back to it. Not one single bit. 🙂 Not even the good parts.
Life has changed drastically since I returned to college. My perspective, my outlook and my dreams. Walking graduation for both my Associates and Bachelor’s Degrees put everything into perspective. The INCREDIBLE feelings of success and accomplishment is INTENSE and very gratifying. 🙂
I am now starting my journey of my Master’s degree and I have already contacted a University about their Doctorate program. I already know where I am going, and I have all the information that I need. I am not turning back now and neither should you. Do not waste your time thinking about the past for it is GONE! Never to be again. HOWEVER, the future is in front of you. Grasp all the opportunities that are there for you. HOLD ON TIGHT! Make them happen for yourself. You cannot fix the past, but you can pour the foundation for the future.
This is what I used to say to my patients all the time as well as employees that used to work for me, see if it works for you.
You are building a gorgeous home. To your specifications. You will be the first person to live in that home. You hire all the contractors, bought all the materials. You decided to go with the lowest bidder to save money as well as using lower quality materials. Again, to save money. Your house is built and it’s AWESOME! You move in and live your life. Ten years later, you notice that the foundation is sinking, literally. 😦 What is going on? Why is this happening? You contact the contractor and he informs you that you decided to use cheaper materials and this is the result. You built a beautiful home on a weak foundation!
Is your foundation weak or are you building your future on a solid, strong foundation? Think about it. If you build your future on a weak foundation, it will eventually crumble. Don’t cheapen your future.
Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you!
Hmmmm when I read this years ago I thought it was just another one of those fly by night schemes but the more I read about it, the more I can to believe in it. The more I practiced it, the more I saw the results. When I don’t practice it, I also see the results of that.
When I first made the decision to return to school was actually years before I walked through the doors of Strayer University. I have thought about it time and again. The problem was I couldn’t visualize it in my head. I couldn’t see me walking across the stage of graduation, or wearing a cap and gown or holding that diploma in my hands. It took almost 15 years before I was able to see any of that. I spoke often of going back to school and I made excuse after excuse I could find; we can’t afford it, the children need me, my husband needs me, work needs me, my friends need me blah blah blah.
Then 5 years ago I heard about this philosophy and decided to check it out. I started to put it in practice. I started to change the way I was thinking. I started to cut out pictures of what car I wanted, what kind of home I wanted, and yes, even what kind of job I wanted. I cut out pictures of college graduates with their caps and gowns and wrote at the top “This is going to be ME!”
Now I must be honest and say I didn’t see changes right away because I often slipped back into my old thinking habits. It is really difficult to learn to control your thoughts. Whew, it was quite exhausting for a long time. Finally about 6 months later things were beginning to change slowly. First was my attitude. I was not longer the walking billboard of negativity. The words ” I CAN” became a daily part of my vocabulary. “I CAN”T” started to become much less a part of my vocabulary. Just changing from I can’t to I can was amazing. I felt different about myself. People said I carried myself differently (I didn’t notice at first). My head was held higher instead of always looking at the ground. It felt great not feeling doom and gloom everyday.
As the I can’s started increasing is when the final decision to go to college became a reality. I was more self-confident and my determination had grown ten fold. One day I was out running errands when I drove past Strayer University and my car suddenly had a mind of its own. I pulled into the parking lot and the next thing I knew I was standing in the front office of the Virginia Beach Campus. I can promise that I had the “deer in the headlights” look and I was really scared. A very pleasant young lady approached me and asked what I wanted and I remember answering her saying “I think I want to go back to school, but I’m not sure if it is for me.” I also remember reverting to the insecure Kathie and I out my head to the ground like I wasn’t deserving. The young lady invited me to her office to discuss my interests. I informed her that I haven’t seen the inside of a classroom for almost (30) years and this was an insane idea. That is when she explained that more adults are returning to college than ever before. I was reassured that I would not be the “old lady” in class and all I had to do was take it one-quarter at a time. She suggested that I start with (2) classes to get acclimated and take it from there.
I completed the application process, and financial aid process and I waited to be rejected. Yep, that’s what I said. Waited to be rejected. The phone would ring and I would see Strayer’s number come up on my caller ID and I wouldn’t answer it. I let it go to voicemail because I didn’t want to hear that I wasn’t accepted, or that my financial aid application had been denied or there was some kind of problem. Funny thing, it never happened. I was ACCEPTED, my financial aid was APPROVED, my classes were SCHEDULED and I was to begin in 3 WEEKS! There was no turning back now! WOW, I’M A COLLEGE STUDENT! 🙂
The law of attraction works for me. It has changed my entire life. I pictured both of my graduations (I picture my Master’s and JD degrees too). I picture myself having high honors, not just getting by in college. I picture teaching other students one day. I picture traveling the country speaking at colleges about my journey and I picture me writing a book soon. I know it sound weird, and I agree, but the Bible speaks about it, Motivational Speakers talk about it, Minsters Talk about it, so there must be something to it all.
Allow yourself to be open to the experience. To change your thinking. To become more confident. To get that College Degree. To get the job of your dreams. FOCUS. FOCUS. FOCUS! When you don’t want to focus or you’re feeling down or overwhelmed – FOCUS ANYWAY! It is hard I agree, but it is worth every teenie tiny step, every frustration, every long night of studying.
VISUALIZE IT. SPEAK IT. SEE IT. WELCOME IT. “I’M A COLLEGE GRADUATE!” 🙂