Are you the type of person that you would want to meet?

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Character is a huge part of whether you succeed or fail. When people meet you are you the type of person that deserves respect, listened to, or trusted? Or are you the type of person that always likes spreading rumors? Who is always trying to hurt other people? Are you the type of person that calls people names and puts them down? Do you gossip? Do you claim to be a religious person and yet don’t forgive?

If you are any of these, why would anyone want to meet you? Be the person you want to meet. Do you want to meet someone who is vindictive, mean, hypocritical, judgemental and so on? Well, of that is not the kind of person you want to meet then maybe you need to stop being that person.

When we become more succesful, haters come out of the woodwork and try to hinder everything you have accomplished. Do not allow that to happen by becoming them. Be better and more mature. You worked hard for all of your successes, some individuals just cannot accept that. They want you to be at their level. You intimidate them.n Your success forces them to look at their own failures. You took the step to better your life. You studied at all hours, weekends and holidays. Why should you have to feel bad about that?

You shouldn’t. Stand strong and stand proud. Prepare yourself for their judgements just as long as you don’t fall into the same behaviors. College is very difficult as it is, especially if you are the first in your family or you were the problem family member who has turned their lives around. Wow what progress. People put down what they do not know about or cannot accept.

Continue on you beautiful journey and continue working on the person you want to meet. You will be AWESOME!

Enjoy this day.

Peace

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Are you a Caterpillar or a ~ BUTTERFLY~

College can be a ~ ROLLER COASTER RIDE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this roller-coaster ride that we call life, we will experience thrilling highs, and we will experience stomach-dropping lows. When unfortunate situations occur, our natural instinct is to partake in negative thought patterns by stressing, dwelling, or worrying. We are human and these emotions are expected. But, when learning to become in control of our attitudes, we can reduce the degree of our… negative reactions and become more accepting of what’s out of our control. Instead of constantly worrying about what you cannot control in life, work on shifting your focus towards what you can always control: your attitude. Make the choice to be positive today.
Going back to college as an older adult is just like this. You are not just juggling school and a social life. You are struggling with school, jobs, family and friends. There always seems to be a crisis of some kind and they always happen during exam times. There always is some report that MUST be done, the family has something that MUST be done, one of your friends is having a melt down. If you are like me you will want to just crawl into a hole and hide for a little while and let life just get back on track. BUT we know that is not possible. You have to set boundaries. Setting boundaries are not always easy, but they are necessary. If you are going to succeed on this college journey, you do not really have a choice.  Especially if you want to complete school with high honors, not just getting by.
You need to get honest with yourself and accept that you do not have to be everyone’s savior and they have to learn to be their own. From my personal experience, this was really hard to do. My husband and boys were so used to me “taking care of everything.”  I handled all the bills, the shopping, the phone calls, the cleaning, cooking and laundry. When I started my Freshman year, I really thought that I could be “Superwoman.” Well, that lasted about 2 months. I thought I was going nuts. 🙂 Why could I not do all of this? What was wrong with me? I began to doubt myself. Had I taken on too much? Did I really think that I could go back to college and have a family and all the responsibilities of life?  OF COURSE I CAN!  It just required some serious restructuring of my life. I started making lists of priorities. I then sat down with my family and told them what needed to change and the help I needed from them. I also explained my expectations and what was not negotiable.  I was surprised that they understood. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy for them to change. I also had to be patient and understand that they were trying. I had to learn to accept that sometimes dishes were going to be in the sink or the vacuum wasn’t being run every day. I had to stand by my expectations. It got tough at times and the resistance tested me. Eventually everyone got the message that I was serious. 🙂
College is fast paced and often overwhelming. The best way that I explained it was I would show a math book I was studying and tell them that I had 12 weeks to learn everything in that book, not the whole year. Their eyes would get really wide and say ohhhhh, wow. It was really awesome to see their reaction and the light bulb suddenly going off. 🙂
You can do this. No matter what the struggles are. Use the tools the colleges offer to you such as: Mentors, Tutoring, Counseling. Contact an Alumni and connect with them, They are the best people to help you through it since they have already done it. You will be amazed at the trials and tribulations that other students have had to overcome. Please do not allow life’s roller coaster and tests to cause you to give up. You are stronger than anything that comes your way. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!
KEEP GRADUATION ON YOUR MIND! It will be worth every single moment.
Enjoy the journey…….
Peace.

 

The Art of Visualization ~ Keep Graduation in your sights!

When you look at this picture, what do you see?  Calmness? Serenity? A place where you would love to be? It creates a sense of peace.

Now, when you look at the picture below, what do you feel?

It makes me smile, feel excited.It creates a sense of accomplishment and pride. I couldn’t say  it better than myself. I walked both my Associates and my Bachelors degrees. I am glad that I did. It was exhilaration! Like it says above, “The tassel was worth the hassle.  ABSOLUTLEY!  I have notes everywhere. My screen savers on my computer and cellphone says “GRADUATION.” There are sticky notes on my refrigerator, front door in my car and office. This is what visualization is all about. It reminds you when it gets tough what your goal is. The words GRADUATION is re-energizing and pumps me up to keep going on.

Visualize graduation day. Picture yourself in you cap & gown. Visualize all the people in the crowd, your family, friends and peers. Picture yourself walking across the stage to get your degree. Imagine the words of your name being called and the type of degree that you earned. Go ahead, sit back and visualize it. It will give you the desire to continue. Watch a virtual graduation online. It’s not cheesy, it’s what you are working for. Don’t deny yourself.

Share your graduation stories if you like. Talk to students who have graduated, ask them what it did for them. Go to one of your schools graduations and experience what it is like.

KEEP IN MIND ~ THE TASSEL IS WORTH THE HASSLE~~~!!!!

Enjoy the beautiful day God gave you!

PEACE~~~~

Just Stop ~ Be Still ~ Believe and Trust.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Human beings have to control everything. Isn’t that true? We are afraid to let go and allow things to happen as their supposed to. My favorite saying is “Let Go, Get God.” Here is where the problem comes in. He never, and I reiterate, does what I “want” when I want him to. Ugggg. Then I get impatient and take control back. That never works out good 😦 for me. It drives me nuts! I feel that if I give up complete control then it won’t get done right. WHAT? Am I saying I don’t trust God and the universe to do the right thing? SHAME ON ME

It’s hard for human beings to, well almost impossible, to let go and just let it be. I don’t know about you, but I go into a panic mode. I say to myself “what if he’s not listening at this very moment, he might miss what I am saying. REALLY?! WOW, that’s pretty narcissistic of me. I should be ashamed of myself and I am. How could I possibly think that I know what I need more than God. WHAT WAS I THINKING!

I have been assessing this over the last year and I am beginning to grasp that concept. I am not 100% trusting yet I am sorry to say. I am doing tons better than this time last year. I have had a great deal of trials and tribulations lately and sometimes I even told God that I was really mad at him. It seemed at first that the further I went in school, the more tests that were given to me. Tests, that is the word I decided to use. It helps me tremendously to understand what and why something is happening.

Tests are designed to determine how much we want something. How badly do I want my education? Am I willing to make sacrifices to accomplish that? Can I handle the stress going to college brings? My answer is YES! YES! YES! If I cannot handle the stress that comes along with going to college, working full-time and having a family, then how am I going to manage the stress that will come with my chosen field? I will still have family and work issues. Even more stress if you are starting a new career.

I have become calmer in the last year and not wiggling out at every obstacle. I stop and take a deep breath and trust that everything happens for a reason. As it say above – JUST BE.

LET THE LIGHTS SPARKLE AND SHOW YOU THE WAY!  Let go and let your life unfold as it is supposed to be. Trust in yourself that you are doing the right things. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

BE OPEN TO FINDING YOUR PATH AND DON’T BE AFRAID, IT’S GOING TO BE A WONDERFUL SURPRISE! Enjoy the journey! 🙂

Enjoy this beautiful day God gave you!

PEACE..

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

College makes you – COME ALIVE!.

College makes you – COME ALIVE!

Think about those words. When we do things that are good for us and others, we literally COME ALIVE. Reflect for a moment on the day you were accepted to college, can you remember the feelings? Yes, some of them were fear, but honestly, there was a great deal of excitement. How man times did you day “I’m a college student!” I know I did hundreds of times. I still do, even after (4) years and two degrees. It is just even more incredible to say “I’m a college graduate!”

COME ALIVE. allow yourself to be fulfilled. I can hear you now “It’s hard to come alive with all this studying, exams, work and family.” REALLY????? Why would you deny yourself the good stuff? No matter what, you are doing what others refuse to do. You are bettering yourself. Improving you and your family’s future. Giving yourself more opportunities.  Stop the self-pity. Stop trying ti pour yourself another glass of failure. Look at all of this as the GLASS HALF FULL instead of the GLASS HALF EMPTY!

As we get older we start to realize our mortality and we realize it is time to make a move. Before you know it the four years will be over and you will have that PRECIOUS DEGREE!  I cannot reiterate enough that feeling you are going to experience. I remember Strayer’s President Dr. Stollards’ words at the end of commencement when she said, “TURN YOUR TASSLES AS YOU ARE NOW A GRADUATE OF STRAYER UNIVERSITY!”  I still get the goose bumps when I think about those words or hear the words “Kathleen Gerber, Bachelor’s of Science, Magna Cum Laude.” You can feel those goose bumps too. Instead of thinking “Oh I wish I would have.” There’s no room here for woulda, coulda, shoulda.

Create your bucket list for life and GO FOR IT! You only live once. Last year, I allowed myself to experience something I have wanted to do my whole life. Skydive. I went with my son and a great friend. Oh yes, I was petrified until the plane was actually flying towards our destination of 13,500 ft. I had a sense of calm because I had made the decision and did not wimp out. IT WAS INCREDIBLE! I loved every single second of it and now I am addicted. The point I am trying to make here is you do not know what you are missing out on if you only allow things to be a dream or a fantasy or wishful thinking.  For me, I don’t want to die with regrets. I don’t want to die with “if only.”

Pump yourself up! Be positive! Yell and Scream like a cheerleader would!

Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in a rut or complacent. This is it! 🙂 🙂 🙂

HAVE FUN!

I know you’re tired – COME THIS WAY….

   Today is Sunday. It is a day of reflection. For us college students it may be a day of studying. For others it may be a day of paperwork for our jobs. You may have to work today. House may need to be cleaned and laundry needs done. I know you’re tired, as I am too.

I woke up just exhausted. Studied until a little after 2 a.m. My first thought was “How am I going to get everything I need to do, done?” I actually allowed myself to get overwhelmed. I noticed how my mood was becoming and realized that I needed to MEDITATE and listen to my favorite Sunday show “Joel Osteen Ministries”, I hope that doesn’t offend anyone. 

Then I found this beautiful post and it drew me in. I sat back and in the quiet of my room I just stared at it. I found myself coming back to my place of peace. My breathing calmed and my mood changed. I took about 10 minutes just to be by myself. Now I am ready to face the day!

This picture is calming and tranquil. Allow yourself to experience it. Imagine the smell, the fresh air and the sounds.  Re-energize. 

Take a deep refreshing breath……Enjoy your day!  🙂

Failure only happens when YOU GIVE UP!

Failure only happens when YOU GIVE UP!.

Worry about your Character. NOT YOUR REPUTATION.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Since today is Friday, let’s keep it light. I think this says it all. I know I get this confused a lot and I am sure that you do too. We are always concerned about our “Rep.” instead of who we really are and that is our character. We waste so much precious time worrying about how our friends, co-workers, fellow students and society in general think about us that we are missing the overall big picture.

What does your character say about you? Are you a truly good person, or one full of lip service? Are you a true believer in God/Higher Power. or again just lip service? Do you contribute to your community? Or all talk and no action? Do you always talk about not judging others, but in reality you judge all the time?  Do you talk about following God’s path but yet hold grudges? Do you profess to forgive as God forgives us for our sins and yet constantly remind people how they messed up? Throw up the past? Don’t let go? Do you demand to be forgiven but don’t forgive? Bottom line are you a HYPOCRITE?

Character is who you are in the good times and in the bad times. Character is about being righteous, not just flapping your lips.  Be the person people admire and want to emulate. Also, do not be someone you are not. Be true to yourself.

Reflect on what you think your character is…… Change what you need to change and Be the BEST you can be.  Be kind to your neighbors and humanity. Give back instead of always taking. Share your knowledge.

LET’S HAVE A GREAT FRIDAY!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂