I wish I was in grade school ~ When there was NO FINALS! :-)

I wish I was in grade school ~ When there was NO FINALS! 🙂.

Don’t build a cottage ~ BUILD A PALACE!!

Don’t build a cottage ~ BUILD A PALACE!!.

That huge Boulder in front of you ~ College ~

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

College can be a ~ ROLLER COASTER RIDE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

On this roller-coaster ride that we call life, we will experience thrilling highs, and we will experience stomach-dropping lows. When unfortunate situations occur, our natural instinct is to partake in negative thought patterns by stressing, dwelling, or worrying. We are human and these emotions are expected. But, when learning to become in control of our attitudes, we can reduce the degree of our… negative reactions and become more accepting of what’s out of our control. Instead of constantly worrying about what you cannot control in life, work on shifting your focus towards what you can always control: your attitude. Make the choice to be positive today.
Going back to college as an older adult is just like this. You are not just juggling school and a social life. You are struggling with school, jobs, family and friends. There always seems to be a crisis of some kind and they always happen during exam times. There always is some report that MUST be done, the family has something that MUST be done, one of your friends is having a melt down. If you are like me you will want to just crawl into a hole and hide for a little while and let life just get back on track. BUT we know that is not possible. You have to set boundaries. Setting boundaries are not always easy, but they are necessary. If you are going to succeed on this college journey, you do not really have a choice.  Especially if you want to complete school with high honors, not just getting by.
You need to get honest with yourself and accept that you do not have to be everyone’s savior and they have to learn to be their own. From my personal experience, this was really hard to do. My husband and boys were so used to me “taking care of everything.”  I handled all the bills, the shopping, the phone calls, the cleaning, cooking and laundry. When I started my Freshman year, I really thought that I could be “Superwoman.” Well, that lasted about 2 months. I thought I was going nuts. 🙂 Why could I not do all of this? What was wrong with me? I began to doubt myself. Had I taken on too much? Did I really think that I could go back to college and have a family and all the responsibilities of life?  OF COURSE I CAN!  It just required some serious restructuring of my life. I started making lists of priorities. I then sat down with my family and told them what needed to change and the help I needed from them. I also explained my expectations and what was not negotiable.  I was surprised that they understood. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t easy for them to change. I also had to be patient and understand that they were trying. I had to learn to accept that sometimes dishes were going to be in the sink or the vacuum wasn’t being run every day. I had to stand by my expectations. It got tough at times and the resistance tested me. Eventually everyone got the message that I was serious. 🙂
College is fast paced and often overwhelming. The best way that I explained it was I would show a math book I was studying and tell them that I had 12 weeks to learn everything in that book, not the whole year. Their eyes would get really wide and say ohhhhh, wow. It was really awesome to see their reaction and the light bulb suddenly going off. 🙂
You can do this. No matter what the struggles are. Use the tools the colleges offer to you such as: Mentors, Tutoring, Counseling. Contact an Alumni and connect with them, They are the best people to help you through it since they have already done it. You will be amazed at the trials and tribulations that other students have had to overcome. Please do not allow life’s roller coaster and tests to cause you to give up. You are stronger than anything that comes your way. FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION!
KEEP GRADUATION ON YOUR MIND! It will be worth every single moment.
Enjoy the journey…….
Peace.

 

Stress vs Attention. It is easier than you think.

I thought that this is most appropriate now considering finals are around the corner. yesterday I spoke about stress. Today, this picture really calmed me and made incredible sense.  My energy goes wherever I want it to go.  It said “Attention” not “Stress.” Stress, sucks all the positive energy out of you and leaves you exhausted. Attention means focus, and when you are focused, it creates positive energy. GEEZ, WHAT TOOK ME SO LONG TO REALIZE THAT!  🙂

When you look at this picture, what do you see? Stare at it for a minute or two. How does it make you feel? Look at all the power surrounding his head and body. Notice how relaxed he is. Print this out and put it wherever you can see it all the time. Let it be a reminder to you that staying focused is important, not staying stressed.

This is true is all aspects of our lives, not just school. Our jobs, our families, our friends and so on. Try changing the word “Stress” to “Attention.” That sounds less harsh. I am going to do the same. Instead of saying “I am so stressed, or this really stresses me out,” say, “I need to focus my attention more on this or I need to channel my attention to the task at hand.” When you say the word stress, it causes your body to tense up but when you say the word attention, it does not bring on such reactions.

Place your “ATTENTION” where it needs to be and you are going to get through the next couple of weeks easily. Now I’m not saying that it won’t be difficult from time to time. I am saying that how we approach it does make all the difference.

While you are at it, remember to pay “ATTENTION” to your needs as well. Take care of yourself too. Eat right, exercise, drink plenty of water and meditate. Go out with the girls/guys and cut loose a little bit. Get a massage or just take a nap. You will feel so much better. Be good to yourself.

Enjoy this beautiful day.

Peace.

You’ve worked hard~CONGRATS!

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Most of us are getting ready for that dreaded word FINALS! The end is near. For some it’s the end of journey, for others it’s the end of our first quarter/semester. For some it’s the end of our undergraduate work and the beginning of graduate school. Wherever you are at take a moment to pat yourself on the back-Go ahead pat yourself and say GOOD JOB! 🙂 . You deserve it.  You worked hard, studied hard, slept very little. You made it.

Some of you are preparing for GRADUATION! 🙂  YES! You may have your cap and gown, your invitations are out and you are EXCITED! Be proud hold your had up high. Picture Graduation day. Imagine yourself all dressed up standing in line with the other graduates and hearing those words LET’S GO GRADUATES! (I just got goosebumps). Then you hear that music and you begin the procession of walking in front of all those people cheering. Some of you will year up and some of you will smile so much your mouth will hurt. 🙂

Rejoice in whatever stage you are at. YOU EARNED IT! 🙂

KEEP MOVING FORWARD………..

PEACE

Rise Above – NO EXCUSES!! YOU ARE NOT COMMON!!!

Rise Above – NO EXCUSES!! YOU ARE NOT COMMON!!!.

Are you willing to get your hands dirty? YOUR FUTURE IS IN YOUR HANDS!

Are you willing to gedt your hands dirty? YOUR FUTURE IS IN YOUR HANDS!.

Be Yourself ~ THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE!

Be Yourself ~ THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE!.