Some Days I Just Need a ~ HUG!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This week has been a bit trifling. Midterm week, work was just nuts, forget my Bff’s birthday, two friends of our family died. One a 22-year-old young man who succumbed to brain cancer. Tragic at such a young age. The other, a prominent attorney who was an amazing man who brought so much to our communities. Both will be sorely missed.

I woke up feeling a little grumpy and frustrated. I am normally a very balanced person who keeps her life scheduled and in order. The last two weeks I have forgotten what that is all about. To forget your best friends birthday! Well, that just tells me that I need to calm down and meditate. Waiting for grades to post is also STRESSFUL! My brain won’t shut up. “I wonder how I did, I wonder how I did, I wonder how I did?’ Over and over again. I keep checking blackboard like every ten minutes to see if anything has posted yet.  It’s time for me to PRACTICE WHAT I PREACH!

The grades are what they are now. I can’t change the outcome now. The week is over, that also cannot be changed. What CAN be changed is ME. Getting all out of sorts is not going to help anything or anyone. Being happy and at peace affects me and everyone around me. So, that is what I need to do. MEDITATE. BREATHE. Go to my happy place and stay there for about 15 minutes. ALLOW yourself to do the same.

Being an older adult going to colleges has its challenges, but it also has its benefits. I’m a lot more mature than I was when I was 18 years old and going to college. Back then, it was PARTY TIME. Now it’s more like “You’re paying for this, make the best of it.” 

 There have been many ups and owns over the past four years but it’s all coming down to this: This week was my LAST midterm I have to take for my Bachelor’s Degree. My LAST ONE!  In five more weeks, I will have earned my Bachelor’s and preparing to start my Master’s program. Here, allow me to say that again, MY LAST MIDTERM for my undergraduate degree! Wow, that sparked something in me!

You need to look at it in a positive light. Whether it be the first midterm of your college career or the last. It is all milestones. I remember the first midterms I took and being so excited when the grades came back that I called everybody that I could think of. Now that it is my last, I STILL DO THAT! Every step in getting your degree is an ACCOMPLISHMENT! Some are baby steps while others were like climbing Mt. Everest!  Sometimes we just need a HUG

If you need a HUG today, here’s one from me ( H  U  G ! ! ! )

Whatever milestone you are at today, TREASURE IT! EMBRACE IT! REJOICE IN IT!

That is exactly what I needed –  A REMINDER. Now I can proceed with getting life back on track and not beat myself up over a couple of hiccups this week. Look yourself in the mirror and take a good hard look. If you did the best you could do~ move on. If you were like me and did the best you could but stumbled a little~ be ok with that. Oh  LOOK- WE ARE HUMAN!~ Change what you need to change and leave the rest behind.

NOW, LET’S GET READY FOR SOME FOOTBALL!!!!!!!!!!!! SUPERBOWL SUNDAY!!!!  🙂 🙂

Enjoy this BEAUTIFUL day God gave you! 🙂

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!.

Mood Swings During Midterms – NOT ME!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I read this I had to laugh because my husband and friends tell me all the time that when midterms and finals are here, I change into the grouchy Kathie. Nah, not me. No way. You’re just messing with me. Well, I have to admit, Yep, Yes, Yea Way and no they are not just messing with me.  It is like the Jeckle/Hyde Syndrome. I become grouchy, stressed and just a plain pain in the you know what!

I hate exams, my anxiety skyrockets and it is like I go through a complete metamorphosis. It took me a long time to realize that I was actually doing that. Midterms and Finals to me are the definition of my intelligence. Did I grasp the information? Was I really paying attention? It is almost like they “define” me. WHAT?!  Wait a minute! Define me?

I am such a Type A personality that I need to be perfect, have the best grades and so on. HOWEVER, I have to remember that the midterm and the final are only a PART of my grade! Duh! Hello!  I need to remind myself too that as long as I am doing my work to the best of my ability during the whole quarter and I am getting A’s on everything else, I can afford to lose a couple of points on the midterm/final. I have to remember to cut myself some slack too. I am such a good student. I do all my assignments and usually score A’s on the quizzes. So why do I do this to myself and my family?

Tonight is my final midterm and for the first time in four years I have accepted that I am doing great in the class and that I will do my best on my midterm and that’s that. Normally I have a headache, my neck is stiff, my back hurts and I am just plain miserable. Sound familiar? Sounds crazy huh? As older adults in college we have this fear of not being good enough or not as smart as the younger people in class because we have been out of school so long. That is one of the reasons I chose a University like Strayer. The majority of students are my age and I don’t feel like the old fart. Everyone is struggling with the same issues as I am; work, family, school and so on.

If you are honestly doing the best that you can and you are not slacking off or making excuses, CUT YOURSELF A BREAK. It is only (1) quarter of your entire college career and maybe this particular class is not your best subject, that certainly does not mean you are a failure. If your family/friends tell you that your mood swings are out of control, listen to them and take heed. If you are stressed that much you are not going to do well on the exam anyway.

You ARE going to survive this exam, really you are. If you do not do well, that’s ok. Talk to your Professor or Advisor and look into tutoring programs available through your College/University. Talk with fellow classmates about study groups where you can help one another out. Support each other. I have yet to meet a Professor who was not willing to help me or tutor me when I needed it. I also Skype with classmates when it is too difficult for everyone to meet at the same place. Sometimes you just need to get creative. Most Universities offer workshops on Math or Study Skills, English and so on. Make use of them. It is amazing what you will learn. The Internet also holds many options such as podcasts of different classes free of charge. Investigate, ask questions.

ENJOY THIS INCREDIBLE JOURNEY! You will make it! 🙂 Don’t let one class, one grade define who you are. Cut yourself some slack.  Good Luck if you are still taking your midterms. If you are done, take a deep breath and smell the fresh air. You made it through it. 🙂 🙂 🙂

What Exam? What Homework? REALLY!

What Exam? What Homework? REALLY!.

What Exam? What Homework? REALLY!

I just had to write about this because I heard this twice this week and both times I thought I was going to just fall over.

Two classmates of mine called regarding what homework was due this week. Now let me inform you that both of these students left class an hour early for the past two weeks. When I saw this picture I immediately though of them.

I am by nature a very nurturing person, but we are in COLLEGE!  What do you mean what homework is due this week?! First off, don’t you have a ‘SYLLABUS?”  You know that huge print out the professors give us at the beginning of the quarter that takes you step by step, week by week.  It is even numbered WEEK 1, WEEK 2, and so on.  Secondly, it is MIDTERM WEEK. HELLO!.. The butt kicker for me is the class we are in is a Jr./Sr. class, which means that you know the routine by now. You are not a freshman taking this class.

When I told them it was midterms, they both panicked,saying I’m not ready, what do I do and they rambled for a good 10 seconds. I couldn’t help myself and I asked them, “What week are we in?”  They answered correctly. I also informed them that because they left class early that they did not get the study guide that the Professor handed out for the midterm. I also informed them that the Professor had a study group on Saturday that he announced in class on Thursday.

You could see pure panic set in. They created unnecessary stress for themselves. Now not only are they behind on the homework that was due but they do not have any clue to what is going to be on the midterm. I suggested that they contact the Professor and see if they can get what they need.

This is where I get on my soapbox. This is college, you are an adult, you know how to be RESPONSIBLE. There really is no excuse for allowing this to happen. I know that Strayer for example, very clearly in the syllabus details every week what is required. If you lose the syllabus you can get another or go into the Student Center of Blackboard and get another one. Oh, and then there is this magical instrument called a telephone/cell-phone that you can use to call your professor anytime, or email anytime. Why wait until two days before the class?

REMEMBER, you are paying for these classes. Yes, there is a great deal of freedom going to college, but that freedom can get you into a lot of trouble if you cannot discipline yourself.  I for none am not in class “Just to get by,” I want to ace the class.

Ok, off my soapbox. Do you see yourself here? If you do, change it. If not, congrats.

HAVE A GREAT DAY!

 HAPPY STUDYING! 🙂